RandoThoughts

 A few random observations, thoughts I thunk while Cheryl and I were talking tonight:

- On judgement: I try never to say what I would have done in someone else's situation or to judge what they should have done. What I try to say is "Based on what I know of the situation, and I don't know everything, what I like to think I would have done is..." And of course, the best thing would be to just not say any dang thing at all because it's none of my business. Which leads me, kind of, to...

- There are so many things I've said over the years that I wish I could take back. And off the top of my head, I can't easily think of any of them. I just know that too often my wont is to speak quickly and bluntly and I know I've hurt people with my words.  I guess a small part of the reason is that I'm ashamed and it reflects badly on me, but really the main reason is how my words have hurt. I sincerely hope I've said more supportive things than negative.

Interesting though, as I proofread that before hitting the "Publish" button, it occurred to me that the single biggest critic in my life (at least to my face) is a fellow from Meeting, name of Harry, who has really let me have it a few times, maybe even more than a few times, and to some extent, his words are the inspiration for my second point above. There aren't many males I can think of whom I adore more than Harry. He has spoken quickly and bluntly to me, about me, and I appreciate him, even when his words do hurt and are memorable. So there's that.