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Monday, December 30, 2024

There once was a blogger named Jamie...

 

My niece Becca sent me (and her mom, my sister Laurie) a beautiful poem the other day and like my revelation about fashion below, has me rethinking my relationship with poetry. Like so many, I’d even say most, people, I never consider myself as “getting” poetry. It just didn’t speak to me. Too contrived, affected, pretentious, Look at me – I use words and sentence breaks cleverly!

That said, I think I’ve actually probably written 3 poems in my life. The first was in 10th grade as an assignment in which I think I wrote something about a dead squished frog on the side of the road. Actually, I don’t think it, I know it. Yup. Second was a poem called “God?” that I wrote on my cross-country bike trip that was published in our Friends’ Meeting Fall Festival booklet in 1982 or 1983. (Yeah, that’s right. I’m a published poet.) And I think I wrote Cheryl a poem once after watching a recent version of Romeo and Juliet with Leo DiCaprio. Or maybe that was just a flowery email in the manner of Shakespearese.

And I’d been wondering lately, and still am to some extent, why music is so important to us. I “get” the appeal of books and sports and movies and television. But what is it about music that we love. Well surely some of it is The Beat. Probably something related to an intersection with our heartbeat. But there are also the lyrics. And what are lyrics but poetry set to music. And there are a lot of lyrics I like, in the increasingly rare occasions I can understand them.

So yeah, if you have a poem you want me to read and absorb, send it along, please. Jamiemcvickar gmail com. Just one at a time though, please. Bonus points if you wrote it yourself.

Saturday, December 28, 2024

And let me just say - you look great today!

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about our personal interactions with my fellow humans, particularly in relation to my philosophy of life that everything is about validation and connections. And I never realized before, that when I refer to “connections”, I’m not entirely thinking in terms of say, who you know to get a job. I’m talking about, as I mentioned above, personal interactions with each other.

Seems weird to have to qualify the word interaction above with the with word personal. One can interact with humans electronically, and although those count to some degree, I’m talking about face-to-face-type stuff. In Jamie World, even a smile to a passerby means more than a business phone call, no matter how cheery. (I admit that I dread the phone though, so I’m not impartial.)

Anyway, rambling on here…I read an article (seen here) in which the author encourages us to share a kind word as often as possible with strangers regarding their fashion choices. My favorite quotes from the story are these:

“My Kentucky grandmother used to say that the easiest way to make yourself happy is to make someone else happy. The stress of the world is made easier by ‘stirring some kindness into the pot.’ And it makes us feel better to have friendly interactions with strangers.”

I certainly agree with that, particularly the last sentence.  I’m sure I’m not the first to observe that the decline of human interactions and neighborly connections began with the introduction and widespread use of air conditioners that drove neighbors off their front porches where they could more easily interact and connect with neighbors, and into their cool living rooms.

And it’s only gotten worse, way worse, as we spend more and more time on our phones, televisions & laptops, gaming, streaming, reading, scanning, youtubing and absorbing all manner of what I’ll call electronitrash.

But the reason I find all this blogworthy goes back to the article that encourages us to comment positively on each other’s physical presentations.  I’ve made it a point to no longer do that and this article has me rethinking that. I’d stopped doing it, somewhat successfully, because I didn’t want to perpetuate the idea that physical appearance is in anyway of primary significance.

I especially use that approach when teaching middle schoolers, as I’ve been doing for two years now. I don’t want them to think that being judged in their appearance is so important.

But now I’m thinking I have that all wrong. Validation really is what we all seek and at no age more than in our early teens. An emphasis on our sartorial expressions has likely been important ever since the first fur was draped over a shivering cavewoman’s body or loincloth affixed over a man’s pelvic region.

And nothing I do is going to change that.

So henceforth, I resolve to go back to putting Fashion Falidation in my human connection repertoire.

Thursday, December 12, 2024

History, written by the (Mc)Victors

 

For some reason, I recently started for the first time really appreciating history. Until now, but mostly long ago, History had been yet another class where I had to pretend I was learning things.

Recently I found myself walking through a nearby town, really trying to picture people 100-200 years ago walking the very same streets I now was, all of them caught up in their lives and the lives of their friends and family, trying to make a living, maybe making plans for an upcoming holiday. All the same things people have been doing on those same streets right up through today.

Maybe it isn’t a coincidence that I am appreciating history so much more now, considering I've been around for so much of it. After all, it recently hit me that I’ve been around for more than a quarter of this country’s existence.

 

Wednesday, December 11, 2024

Was it something I said?

So...a few months ago, I posted this list showing the locations of where the most people viewing this blog live. The leader by far was Sweden. 

Well, apparently I may have done something to upset my Swedish reading contingent. Maybe it was the crack about their meatballs. (Maybe that's their version of sportswriters and sports commentators in this country unable to reference Philadelphia without mentioning a certain misunderstood event involving snowballs and Santa Claus...OVER 60 YEARS AGO!)

Anyway, where was I...oh yeah, so where about 1/3 of the readers back then were located in Sweden, well, now there aren't any! But they sure are loving me in Singapore!

(And to be clear, I don't actually believe a single person in any of those top three countries - Singapore, Hong Kong or Brazil have ever been here...or any of the others either outside of the USA. I figure it's all bot-searching-type non-persona. But PLEASE, again - if you are outside the country and see this, please leave me a comment. I'd love to be in touch.)

Singapore
439
Hong Kong
205
Brazil
49
United States
16
United Kingdom
3
Russia
3
Indonesia
2
Poland
2
Romania
2
Argentina
1
Bangladesh
1
Switzerland
1
China
1
Colombia
1
Egypt
1
France
1
Iraq
1
South Korea
1
Morocco
1
Other

16 

Friday, November 15, 2024

I wanna be...

Curious not Condescending

Listening not Lecturing 

Finger-beckoning not Finger-wagging

Pulling not Pushing

Patient, not my usual self.

Given that Blacks, Latinos and women voted more heavily for Trump in 2024 than they did for Biden in 2020, and that White men voted more for Harris than they did for the Trump in 2020, can it be said that all four demographics voted against their own self-interests?

Only true if you believe it is in White males' best interest to preserve the White patriarchy.

That said, my overall conclusion is that people generally voted for the person who was best going to help them personally and not for the greater good, which would have meant more votes for Democrats.

Monday, November 11, 2024

2024 Election disaster review...and if you act now, you too can win future elections!

 Biden: “Told ya I shouldn’t have dropped out.”

Us: “Told ya you should have dropped out earlier.” 

Some observations about the recent disaster of an election: A political earthquake on a level with (and hopefully not the impact of) the 1980 Presidential election.

And then I’ll give my suggestions of what we Ds need to do better going forward.

Things I probably see a little, or even a lot, differently from what I’m seeing written anywhere else:

1 – They say the Biden administration didn’t pay enough attention to the working class. 

The Biden administration:

-            Tried to increase the minimum wage but was stymied by the Republicans’ filibuster

-            Supported strikes by walking union picket line

-            Created blue-collar jobs with the CHIPS Act and Inflation Reduction Act with major investments in manufacturing, infrastructure, semiconductors, and non-fossil fuels

-            Helped secure union pensions that were underfunded

-            Tried to help low-income folks who were burdened with student loans with outrageous interest rates

-            Supported more vigorous antitrust enforcement to inhibit giant corporations from driving up prices further

-            Supported stronger enforcement of labor laws

-            Fought to crack down on junk fees across industries and ban fees for essential bank services

Doesn’t sound like Biden and Harris "abandoned working class people" to me.

2 -The Dems emphasis on subgroups (I’m not going to call them minorities because that implies race and I am referring to gender issues and gender identities as well) was extremely counter-productive. Those campaign obsessions alienate more people than they bring in. Once we are in power, we can and should focus on helping those communities, but they should not be the focus of our speeches or campaigns. (I’ll write more about this in the suggestions section below.)

3 –More specifically to that point, supporting trans males participating in girls or women’s sports is a losing issue. According to exit polls, the single biggest reason given by swing voters who voted for Trump was that they agreed with the statement that Kamala was "focused more on cultural issues like transgender issues than helping the middle class." Eek! 

4 – We missed the opportunity to tell people that fewer people are now crossing the border than when Trump left office (steps it took them waaay too long to implement) and to tell people that inflation the last 6 months has been less than the last 6 months of the Trump presidency.

5 – Many people are afraid that this election proved that America is not ready or willing to elect a female President and I disagree. I think this proves that the first woman to be President will be a Republican. Or a woman who speaks as infrequently about perceived women-centered issues as Kamala did race-related issues. She will need to make men at least as much a focus of her campaign as women, if not more so, to make men comfortable voting for her.

6 – The Trump campaign constantly focused on the importance of, and support for, men. The Harris campaign never once spoke to that but never missed a chance to emphasize their support for women and women’s issues. It seems clear based on the voting results that a surprising number of women are more comfortable living in a society that emphasizes the old school, traditional roles for men and women. We already know many men feel that way for obvious, if unfortunate, reasons.

So What Now What

Well, not really “So what”, because what just happened will take a long, long time to forget, or at least shake off. (Unfortunately, I think we’ll get over it psychologically faster than the country, and possibly the world, will recover from the negative impacts.) But in the spirit of moving on, and trying to not let this ever, ever happen again, here are the steps I think Dems need to make:

1 - In the disaster, I find one positive: With more subgroups voting for Republicans, I’m desperately hoping it will lead to a complete removal of our party’s obsession with identity politics. I just don’t see the political advantage of any even slight reference to helping any subgroup. Every policy should benefit ALL working class – middle income and low income – people.

 It’s clear that we Dems will support women and gays and trans kids but I’ve heard no mention of men, especially husbands and fathers…and potential fathers-to-be. And heck – boys too. I know – “wah”, right? We’ve had most of the power for the entire history of our civilization. But males die by suicide three to four times more often than do women. Far fewer males are now going to college than women. I’m not saying men have it tougher, but we have issues that need to be spoken to and validated too. Or better, just leave specific reference to either out of the campaigns. No need to pander to anyone based on gender, race or sexual identity.

2 - This would make many of my friends’ heads explode, but abortion is not purely a women’s issue! God bless Michelle Obama for being the first person I’ve heard, public or private, well, besides me, to acknowledge this.

But she didn’t even go far enough. This is particularly an issue for low-income people, both men and women. And if abortion is taken off the table, so to speak, and women are forced to give birth, that will impact both parents for the rest of their lives. Preferably equally, but at minimum, substantially.

3 - Admit that NAFTA was a mistake.  And now we need to show that we will do everything in our power to reverse the impact of that infamous bipartisan trade agreement.

4 - People love lists. Give it to them and don’t be vague.  Use more easily understood charts and graphs to show clearly how our policies increase the deficit at a far slower rate than the Republican plans that benefit the wealthy. Identify the wealthy and corporations as the Republican favorite special interest groups. Charts and graphs show how statistically, so many areas have been better under a Dem Presidency than under Rs: crime, the deficit, the stock market, oil production and especially job creation, manufacturing jobs in particular.

Here, I’ll help.

Democrats will:

1 –Aid and protect you with:

- better access to health care

- job-training

- adult education of any kind, including

    - free classes on job-related computer skills, from spreadsheets to coding

    - free classes at community colleges or job-training-related adult evening classes at your local high school.

2 - Reduce the strangulating power that corporations have over our lives that keep all of us from a better life.

3- Reject corporate welfare (subsidies and tax credits to particular companies and industries unrelated to the common good).

4 - Incentivize corporations to share their profits with their workers.

5 - Cut off the limit on employer contributions to your personal Social Security fund and reinstate the social security tax for earners over $400,000

6 - Put American citizens’ needs ahead of anyone entering our country illegally

7 - Limit the power of investment houses to buy up houses and hold them from the market in order to force an increase in housing sale costs

8 - Pass a law requiring term limits for all federal and state level politicians

9 - Institute age-limits for Supreme Court justices

10 - Nominate justices who will overturn Citizens United reducing the role of money from billionaires in politics

11 - Only involve our military to fight wars that have an impact on our national security

12 – Reduce unnecessary overseas military installations and use the money to strengthen our factory towns

13 – Commit to a full audit of the nation’s drinking water systems and make repairs a top priority, giving everyone access to clean water

14 - Commit to oppose any hate speech against people who have different political opinions from ours. Our fellow American citizens are not the enemy within.

15 - Will do everything we can to keep the government out of your life…unless you actually need or want its help. If the private sector can do it better and for less cost, the government shouldn’t be doing it at all. 

16 –Will give special attention to supporting small businesses, which create more jobs than all the Fortune 500 companies combined. This includes removing burdensome regulations and unnecessary government-imposed requirements.

17 – Will make sure all spending on our national defense is spent efficiently and is only directed toward the most up-to-date weaponry

18 – Make sure our veterans have access to free mental healthcare for life

19 – Give incentives to corporations of any size to provide free onsite childcare

And lastly, never forget to remind people how wonderful they are. The best of what makes America great isn’t based on who we vote for. It’s what we do every day regardless of our party affiliation: getting our kids off to school, shopping, making dinner, going to religious services, volunteering at the food bank, cutting the grass for a sick friend or neighbor regardless of what their voter registration card says, caring for our elderly parents, and yes, maybe even running for public office.  

As Nicholas Kristof wrote, “If Democrats can keep the conversation on minimum wages, child care, unions, jobs, tax increases on the rich and access to health care, they can compete for working-class voters of all complexions. But the first step may be the most difficult: Democrats will have to swallow their pride and show more respect toward working-class voters who just rejected them and elected their nemesis.”

And finally, as James Brown said, “People feel you before they hear you.” I have plenty of people in my life whom I love and respect, who are thoughtful, loving, supportive people…who vote straight Republican, yes, even including for Donald Trump. We need to validate and try to understand their feelings and beliefs, just as we’d ask that they do the same of us. 

Thanks for making it all the way through. Now...what did I get wrong or...right?

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