I think I'm just getting better at differentiating which is real self-confidence, and which is assumed. The real is usually understated, and just makes the person fun to be around, because they're comfortable with themselves and know what they're about. The fake (ie: the overbearing confidence so obviously masking a deeper sense of inadequacy) generally comes across as controlling - it steps on others' toes - or makes you feel like you're the unwilling particpant in a performance - so it's still really irritating.
I think I'm just getting better at differentiating which is real self-confidence, and which is assumed. The real is usually understated, and just makes the person fun to be around, because they're comfortable with themselves and know what they're about. The fake (ie: the overbearing confidence so obviously masking a deeper sense of inadequacy) generally comes across as controlling - it steps on others' toes - or makes you feel like you're the unwilling particpant in a performance - so it's still really irritating.
ReplyDeleteExcellent point, Kate, and well stated.
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